Ephesians 5:22-24 Part 2
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Ephesians 5:22-24 Part 2

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A Verse-by-Verse Expository Sermon on Ephesians 5:22-24 from September 21.

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And verse number 22, actually, this is going

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to be part two of the same text that I

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preached

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from last week, and let's read verses 22 to 24

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to get started.

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The Bible says, wise be subject to your own

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husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is

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the head of the wife.

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As Christ also is the head of the church, he

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himself being the savior of the body.

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But as the church is subject to Christ, so

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also the wives ought to be to their husbands

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in everything.

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Now, as we've been saying, completely counter-

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cultural in our day.

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These instructions right here are very simply

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God's design.

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God working through his spirit inspired the

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apostle Paul to call all Christian wives to

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submit to their husbands.

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That is God's design for the wife's blessing,

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for the husband's blessing, for the blessing

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of the children, and for the blessing of the

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church.

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Most women in our society hear these words,

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and they recoil at these words.

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Leftist feminism has had such an influence in

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our nation, especially over the last sixty

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years or so, that this idea of wives submit to

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your own husbands is laughed at in our

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culture.

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It's mocked, it's ridiculed, treated with

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complete scorn and really utter hatred.

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And as with many things, this attitude has

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also infected the church and has for many

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years now.

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Not so much as visceral as we see it with the

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unbelieving leftist feminist, but certainly

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maybe with what we could call a soft feminism,

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maybe we could label it that way, that at

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a minimum either outright disagrees with this

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or has a different interpretation of which

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there are multiple, or just does not deal with

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this clear command at all.

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Let's just pretend like it's not there, talk

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about other things.

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A Christian writer named Laura Miller wrote

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the following that I think rightly understands

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verse 22 here, "Wives be subject to your own

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husbands as to the Lord."

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She writes this, "I was created to be a helpme

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at."

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That was the stated purposes in Genesis 2.18

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when God gave woman to man to rid man of his

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loneliness and to be a helper to him.

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Just as when I most perfectly fulfill my

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purpose as a human, when I am glorifying and

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enjoying

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God, when I am a helpmeat, I am most perfectly

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fulfilling my purpose as a woman.

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By being a helper, I am not a lesser person

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than my husband.

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My femaleness certainly does not hinder God in

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his sovereign design to call me to himself,

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nor does it bind me to a lesser relationship

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with him.

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Indeed, Scripture demonstrates that God did

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not consider my gender when he saved me.

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For there is neither Jew nor Greek.

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There is neither slave nor free.

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There is neither male nor female.

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For you are all one in Christ Jesus.

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In his placing me within the economic

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hierarchy of the church family, my womanhood

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was inherently

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involved in the calling, but in choosing me to

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receive the call, being a woman was incidental

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.

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That was just so well said.

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And such a very clear sense of identity as

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defined by Scripture is really rejected by

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many women even in the church today.

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You know why?

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Because this text is so misunderstood by so

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many in the church today.

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They fail to understand the difference women

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do in many cases in the church today between

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what they are in the kingdom and what they are

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in the family and what their God ordained

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role is.

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And they fail to submit to the purpose that,

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think of it, God has uniquely designed for

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women.

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And a large part of the reason for this is

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because in so much of the American evangelical

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ism

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during the same exact time period that we have

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seen the rise of leftist feminism, as

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you well know, we have witnessed a departure

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in our pulpits away from verse by verse exp

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ository

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preaching, rooted and sounded and ground

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doctrine in favor of what?

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Watered down, man-centered, topical, moral

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istic, therapeutic deism in our pulpits.

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That's what has happened.

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There's two things happening at the same time,

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have made in so much of the church in America

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just women to not even understand what's being

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said in these verses.

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And so I want to continue to help us

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understand them biblically today.

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Last time we started with our first point from

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verse 22, the matter of submission.

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Look at verse 22 again, "Wives be subject to

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your own husbands."

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Now we discussed that, and if you didn't,

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weren't here last time, go back and watch

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that.

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I don't have time to go back through all of

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that.

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But I want to take you down to part two, point

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two, the manner of submission.

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Not only is the woman designed by God to

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submit, but there is even a way in which she

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should

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submit.

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There is a manner to her submission.

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Look next in verse 22, "As to the Lord."

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This means respond to your husband submiss

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ively as if you were responding to Christ.

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Now that is intense, right?

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Think about that.

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Think of this.

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That is the will of Christ.

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So number one, Christian wife, how can you

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reject that?

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How can you reject what that says?

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When you are submitting to your husband, it's

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the same as if you are submitting to Jesus.

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That is what this phrase means.

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In the same way that you submit to Jesus, you

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are to submit to your husband.

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It's heavy.

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So that's the manner of submission.

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That's the highest standard possible that the

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apostle Paul is calling Christian wives

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to, "As to the Lord."

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Remember, I didn't write the mail, ladies.

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I'm just a mailman, okay?

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If you've got a problem with that right there,

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your problem is not with me.

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Your problem is with the Word of God.

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I'm just telling you what the Word of God

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clearly says and what it means.

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Now next, we have point three.

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What is the motive for this submission?

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Look at the start of verse 23, "For the

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husband is the head of the wife."

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Boy, the feminists, they lose their mind.

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This is God's word.

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That's the design of God.

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That's the divine plan.

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Try this illustration on for size.

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A body submits to the brain, right?

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Which is in the head.

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The brain is here by God's design.

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In the same way when a wife follows God's

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design in marriage, she submits to her husband

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,

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who is the head.

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Remember, we talked about his role of

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authority in the family last time.

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Now you see a body that's not responding to

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the brain, to the head.

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What do you see?

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Well, you see a deformity.

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You see something that's not normal.

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You see a dysfunctional person.

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And the same is true in a marriage.

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When a wife does not submit to her husband and

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thereby she does not submit to God's design,

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there is and will be dysfunction, distortion.

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God has designed the body to respond to the

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head.

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And verse 23 is telling us that the husband is

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the head of the wife.

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Now, number four, in line with this, the model

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of submission.

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Look at verse 23.

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Takes it up another notch.

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As Christ also is the head of the church.

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So you see the comparison here?

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In other words, wives, you are to submit to

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your own husbands as the church submits to

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Christ.

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God has an order of things.

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As I've been telling you through this whole

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passage, with the same willing heart that the

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church has in obeying Christ, the wife is to

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submit to her husband.

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That's what Paul is teaching us here.

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And again, Paul continues to give us this very

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high standard.

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Think of it in the same willing, joyful way in

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which the church is to submit to Christ.

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So you wives are to submit to your husband and

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they look next.

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Look next.

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He himself being the savior of the body.

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As Christians, we joyfully submit to the one

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who saves us, right?

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King Jesus.

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That's what is our new desire after we become

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saved and regenerate.

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The church very willingly, gladly submits to

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Christ.

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I mean, we understand, we begin to understand

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our weakness once we come to Christ, right?

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And we understand his strength in a way we

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never did.

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We understand that apart from Christ, we can

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do absolutely nothing, right?

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We submit our weakness to his strength in the

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church.

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And so the comparison that Paul is trying to

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make here or is making is the same thing

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as to happen in marriage.

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That's intense, right?

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Just like Jesus delivered the church from the

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dangers of sin and death and hell.

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So the husband in his role is to provide,

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protect, preserve and love his wife, leading

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her to blessing as Christ leads the church to

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blessing as we submit.

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Number five, the magnitude of submission.

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Look at verse 24.

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But as the church is subject to Christ, so

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also the wives ought to be subject to their

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husbands.

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Same word.

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Remember their submit in everything.

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Now that's some magnitude right there, isn't

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it?

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In what?

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Everything.

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That's God's design in everything, except, of

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course, if you were here last time.

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If the husband wants the wife to do something

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that dishonors God, she doesn't submit at

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that point.

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That's obvious, right?

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But how does this submission work out?

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Let's talk about that.

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And I want to use a biblical example to show

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you this.

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There are several to choose from, there's one

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in Timothy, but I want to look at Titus.

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And I think this is a great example.

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First let's read it and then we'll get into it

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What does biblical submission from a wife look

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like, right?

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Well, over in Titus chapter two and verses

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three through five, Paul's giving out some

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instruction for the women and the men in the

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church and all that.

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Let's just read this one little section in

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three to five.

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He's speaking to the older women in the church

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here and look what he says.

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Older women likewise are to be reverent in

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their behavior, not malicious gopsups, nor

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enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good

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so that they may encourage the young women

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to love their husbands, to love their children

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, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind,

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being subject to their own husbands so that

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the word of God will not be dishonored.

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Now here we get into some specific

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instructions for the women in the church.

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Look at verse three.

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"Older women likewise are to be reverent in

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their behavior, not malicious gopsups, nor

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enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good."

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So first thing that Paul does here is that he

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establishes what is to be the godly behavior

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of the older women in the church and he uses

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those categories as a good example of how

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the older women are to behave.

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But here's what I really want to focus on for

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this illustration's purpose.

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Look at that last phrase in verse three, "Te

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aching what is good."

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Because that takes us into verse four and five

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.

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What Paul is considering here after their

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years of raising a family are over, the older

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women are to then take this role upon

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themselves of being teachers and mentors to

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the younger

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women in the church.

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And that's a great thought, right?

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That's a great thing for the older women to do

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.

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A generation of godly older women instructing

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and mentoring a new generation of younger

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women, women with young children.

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And again, at the end of verse three, look

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what it says, teaching what is good, literally

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that which is noble, that which is excellent,

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that which is lofty.

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By the way they live their daily lives, by the

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way that they conduct themselves, they

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are to pass down Christian virtue in their

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behavior to these younger women.

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That's what he's getting at.

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And boy, do we sure need this today in the

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church.

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Would you agree?

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The first phrase in verse four shows how

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important this really is.

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Look what it says.

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So that they may encourage the younger women.

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Other words could be used there like admonish,

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instruct.

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In fact, in the Greek word here literally

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means this, to train in self-control,

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encourage.

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This means to teach someone self-control, self

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-discipline, sensibility.

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So what a great responsibility this is for the

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older women in the church.

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Now let's go on to verse four to see the

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specifics and what is first?

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Encourage the young women to love their

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husbands.

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And we're going to see, coming up, men get

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yourselves ready and later in Ephesians five,

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husbands love your wives.

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Look at what this says, encourage the young

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women to love their husbands.

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So there's a mutual love.

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Just like I taught you in the first two

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messages about a mutual submission that there

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must

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be between husband and wife as the ground

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floor.

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Before we ever get to the roles, there has to

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be mutual love and mutual submission.

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And this is a command.

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This is not a suggestion.

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And a command demands obedience and it also

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assumes the possibility of obedience.

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This is something that can be done no matter

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how the husband is acting.

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Remember we talked about that last time.

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Now think about that, a command.

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Well, what about a lady who says, "Well, I

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just don't love my husband anymore.

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I mean, I used to love him when we had the

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butterflies and the fireworks.

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I mean, but now I think I just kind of fell

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out of love with him.

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You got to know him."

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Now for Christians, with this right here being

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a command, that excuse isn't going to

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cut it either, is it?

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I just don't love him anymore.

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Well, wait a minute.

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What makes a marriage is a commitment to love

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your spouse.

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Not to love your spouse is a sin.

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And what we're talking about here is not

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Hollywood love.

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That's fake.

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It has nothing to do with Christian love.

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What we're talking about here is mature

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Christian agape sacrificial love that holds

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the other

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as more important than yourself.

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Of course the butterflies fly away.

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That happens pretty quick, right?

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Christian love is that which grows deep and

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strong and is above all things the number

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one characteristic.

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I'll say it over and over and over and over

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and over until I die.

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Sacrificial love, that is the key to biblical

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marital love.

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So policy and it's the responsibility of the

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older women to teach that reality to the

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younger

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women and that's the heart of actually what a

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woman needs in order to be able to submit

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to her husband.

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If you love your husband rightly, this whole

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submit to your own husband sure works out

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a lot better for you if you love him, right?

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And then next, in verse four, the older women

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are encouraged, look at it, the young women

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to love their children for the wife beyond the

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overarching purpose of life and being

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and existence on earth, which is living for

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the glory of God.

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Her life is her husband, her life is her

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children.

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And guess what?

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When that is lived out rightly, that does

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bring glory to God.

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So you're accomplishing both of those things,

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the overarching purpose and bring glory to

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God through loving your husband, through

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loving your children.

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A woman, as we saw earlier message, led the

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human race into sin in the garden and yet

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it is women who influence the next generation

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in their motherhood, especially in the younger

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years of a child's life.

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Think of it a mother's godliness, a mother's

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virtue has a profound effect on the life of

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her children.

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The rearing of children is one of the greatest

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contributions that a woman can make.

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Obviously God does not have that as a plan for

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all women.

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There are many contributions a woman can make

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to advance the kingdom of God besides rearing

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children that are indeed very important and

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very necessary.

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But it is the role that a mother plays in a

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very short period of time of being an

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influence

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in a child's life when it's a child and it

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shapes who that child will be in adulthood.

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And of course, there are no absolute

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guarantees with that, right?

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We know that.

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We've seen that.

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You can do everything you can possibly do to

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the best of your ability to raise your

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children,

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right?

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But at the end of the day, it is still the

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responsibility of that grown adult that you

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raise as a child to live their life for the

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glory of God, but also in many cases, God uses

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that special relationship of a godly mother to

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shape who that child will be for his glory.

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So the older women in the church are to teach

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the younger women in the church to love their

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husbands, to love their children, and then

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look next, verse five, to be sensible.

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Oh, man, I love that one right there.

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That's a good one.

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It's so sad to think about this world in which

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we live today having so many women who just

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don't think right at all.

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I mean, they can't think straight.

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I mean, just this past week, examples about

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grown adult professional women with high

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degrees

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of learning across the board, nurses, doctors,

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business women going out of their way to make

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videos, to post online celebrating the murder

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and assassination of Charlie Kirk.

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You're not thinking straight.

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And I'll bring up AOC again on the floor of

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the House of Representatives, voting no to

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a simple resolution to honor the memory of

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Charlie Kirk, but purposely, severely mischar

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acterizing

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who he was and what he stood for and twisting

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his words and taking them completely out of

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context to make him look like an ignorant,

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racist and bigot.

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So many women, literally half of the voting

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women in our country, have lost the ability

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to make sound judgments.

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They've lost common sense.

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So here in verse five is just the most basic

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thing, teach the younger women to be sensible.

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Next, look what it says, teach them to be pure

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, agnus.

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It means chased.

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They are to be faithful to their husbands in

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every conceivable way.

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Now I want to give you another illustration, 1

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Timothy 2, 9 to 10.

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Likewise, I want women, this is Paul instruct

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ing Timothy in the church there and he's past

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oring,

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likewise I want women to adorn themselves with

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proper clothing, modestly and discreetly,

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not with braided hair and gold or pearls or

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costly garments, but rather by means of good

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works as is proper for women, making a claim

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to godliness, godliness.

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Now there's no need to take that legal

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istically.

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Take it sensibly.

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How do we begin in this day and age in 2025 to

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take that sensibly?

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Well remember to look up the historical

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context, just like we did last time in 1

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Corinthians

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with the head coverings.

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In Paul's day, and this church that he's

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writing to, there were women in that church

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who were

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making distractions and they were sewing

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discord in that church and what they would do

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is they

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would actually weave gold and pearls and other

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jewelry into their hairstyles in order

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to call attention to themselves.

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So they showed up to church with these gold

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and jewels weaved in their hair and the same

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was true, you see the phrase there, "costly

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garments."

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They would draw attention to themselves with

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their costly clothing and what would that

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do for the poorer women, we would make them en

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vious, just stirring up all kind of stuff.

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And what's Paul's point?

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Paul's point was all of that is distracting

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away from why we're here at the church.

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We're here to worship God and y'all are

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causing distraction, you're sewing discord

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unnecessarily

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in the church and by way of application also

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under the exhortation of being pure.

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Think about how some women dress today.

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I mean a trip to Walmart can really be an eye-

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opener in our day and I won't make reference to

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certain

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geographical locations being more intense in

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that situation than other geographical

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locations

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but as previous jokes of mine have been you

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can guess the particular Walmorts that I'm

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thinking about right now and I'm being

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sensible, not naming it.

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But blending sensible and pure together, it's

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real simple, this is rocket science, godly

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women are to dress in such a way that calls

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attention to their virtue and to their god

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liness

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and not to themselves.

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You're going to come to church, dress nice, it

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's good to dress nice but you're not going

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to come in here like you're walking down the

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red carpet at the Grammys, right?

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That's calling attention to yourself, that's

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not legalism.

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Now some churches make that legalism with

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dress and all the rest but of course we don't.

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This is just sensible.

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Look now, next in verse five we get down to

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the real nitty gritty.

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This is the place where the leftist feminists

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lose their ever-loving minds right here.

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Look next, workers at home, oh boy, literally

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a house worker.

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This the apostle Paul has said is to be the

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primary sphere of a wife and a mother.

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It's her domain, it's her kingdom, it's her

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realm, it's Christie's Castle on Kerry Road.

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That's what it is.

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This phrase, workers at home, does not simply

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refer to just scrubbing the floors and

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cleaning

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the bathrooms, it includes that but it's

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broader than that.

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It carries the idea that the home is the

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sphere of all her labors, whatever they may be

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.

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It means that the home is her particular

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divine assignment.

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She is to be the home keeper and to take care

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of her husband, to take care of her children

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and her grandchildren in certain cases, right?

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My guys, now, if I counsel a young couple just

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starting out, I'm going to be very honest

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with them and I always will be.

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I will be quick to tell them that you cannot

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follow the example that Christie and I carried

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out in raising our children.

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We were new Christians, we were coming from a

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complete opposite realm of the church, the

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Christian church and I would go back and

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change everything that we did.

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Starting with, just as an aside, I would have

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never entered into the ministry without going

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to a sound biblical seminary and any young man

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that wants to go into the pastorate, I

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would go learn the languages, go learn the

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Greek, go learn the Hebrew, go to a saint,

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well, we got a brand new seminary, Founder's

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Seminary over in Florida where Vodibachem

29:23

is the president, a great seminary you can go

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to, another one up in Arkansas.

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There's a lot of liberal ones, but there's

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great ones too.

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Christie and I are very much anomalies.

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Now obviously, I'm not against women working,

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my own wife has been working in City Hall

29:41

for over 30 years, right, but I counsel young

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couples.

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I'm honest, I'm very quick to say, if you want

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to go about the very best way possible

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of raising a Christian family, follow these

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verses and men, you do whatever you have to

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do to make sure that your wife can stay at

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home with those kids and raise those kids and

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you've got to work three jobs, do that if

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necessary.

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Now after the kids are grown, you know, and

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you want to get a job, no problem, but have

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your woman, especially in those early years,

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toddler, six, seven, eight, also don't ever

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put your kids in a public school ever, okay.

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I did, bad move, all right, and look, I

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understand that there are certain situations

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that cannot

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be avoided, like for example, with my own

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grandchildren, can't be avoided.

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There's reasons, everybody's got different

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situations.

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I'm talking about the best, I'm talking about

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the standard, I'm giving you the very best

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way, the Christian standard, maybe it can't be

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done, there are certain situations like

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in ours where that can't be done, but if it

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can be, if a woman is capable, homeschool

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those

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kids.

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I'm telling you, that's the very best way.

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If she's not capable, send them to one of

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those co-ops.

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As Vody Backem said, if you send your children

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to pagan government schools, don't be

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surprised

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when they come home acting like Romans, okay,

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because the biggest thing they're influenced

31:27

by is not only woke education, it's also the

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children that happen to be there who come

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from every walk of life imaginable in the

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public school setting.

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God's highest standard is giving right here in

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verse five, look at it again.

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Children are to be workers at home, rearing

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those children, both spiritually and with

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a solid, biblically based Christian education

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along with all the other things that go into

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running a solid Christian home.

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Now, I cannot help but brag on my wife back

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there.

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She works a solid, solid 40 hours a week, and

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she still comes home every day, cooks

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a meal, cleans, does the lion's share of the

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housework so that I have the opportunity to

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sit at the desk and also keep up with the

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outside and also 50% of the week also serving

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the grandchildren as well, which is six, four

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and two, quite a task.

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Now, for sure, we have not ever followed the

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highest pattern in this regard, and again,

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I don't ever counsel anybody to follow what we

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have done, both by way of ministry and

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in the home, but God in His kindness and His

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mercy has made this work out for us.

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That's just God's grace.

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That's just God's mercy in our life.

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We are literally a team in what I do here in

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ministry in every possible single sense

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of that phrase, a team.

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I could not do this without Christie, and that

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is not any kind of hyperbole.

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I couldn't.

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I couldn't do it.

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So, like the old saying goes, I'm saying to

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young couples, do what I say and not what

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I did and what I do, because guess what?

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It may not work out for you as it did for us.

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It's just God in His kindness has made it work

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for us.

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And as a Christian, you should want to go

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about raising a family, striving to live

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according

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to the gold standard of God's Word.

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And look, listen, please listen to me.

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I understand that we could sit here for hours

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and go through, well, what about this

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situation

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and what about that situation?

34:05

Of course, of course, though, there's all

34:08

kinds of situations where the Bible's pattern

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for the home is something that can't be worked

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out in the way that we might want it to.

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There's situational circumstances that block

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that from being able to happen.

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We are example number one, but guess what my

34:25

job is to give you the best possible standard

34:29

from biblical principles to carry out as best

34:32

as you can to strive to live according to

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the Word of God.

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That's what I'm doing here today.

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Now, I can't do anything other.

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Just be completely honest with you about this

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whole thing.

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You have to use godly wisdom to act within the

34:46

situation that you're in and be discerning

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as best you can to carry this out according to

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God's precepts and understand to most most

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of our society.

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God's standard right here in this text for the

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home is absolutely ridiculous.

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But while they think that and you know this in

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your own life of people that you know that

35:16

are not believers, look at the extreme level

35:21

of dysfunction that characterizes so many

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people's households that we know who do not

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follow this power, who do not believe in

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Christ.

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And because of the world's influence within

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the church, and I've said this before, God's

35:38

way may even seem a little strange to us

35:41

because we've been so impacted by the world.

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But what I'm telling you is, this is the Word

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of God.

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These words are plain and easy to understand.

35:53

Words have meaning and here they are and this

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is what they mean.

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Godly women are to be content at home, content

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to love their husbands, content to love their

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children and serving the Lord through serving

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their families.

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I promise you, I promise you, this is the best

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way to live life in the family.

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Look next in verse 5 of Titus 2.

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Hmm, looks familiar, huh?

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Being subject to their own husbands, same

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exact thing in our text Ephesians 5-22.

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Look at it.

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Wives be subject to your own husbands.

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Submit to your own husbands.

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We saw it last week in Colossians.

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It's over and over, Paul is repeating this

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because he wants all Christian families to

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get this, not to other men, you don't submit

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to other men, ladies, to your own man.

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Now look next in Titus 2-5.

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So that the Word of God will not be dishonored

36:51

, literally so that it will not be blasphemed

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or slandered.

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So what's at stake here?

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What's at stake is the honor of the Word of

37:04

God.

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If we say we believe in the Word of God, if we

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say we want to preach to you the gospel

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of the Word of God and that the Bible has the

37:14

answers and that Christ is the answer,

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but in our daily lives, in the many different

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situations and circumstances that we may find

37:22

ourselves in, we are not striving as best we

37:25

can to live obedient to the Word of God.

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Why should any person outside of the church

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believe that it is as important as we claim

37:34

it is?

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Why should they believe us?

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The very honor of Scripture itself is at stake

37:43

is what Paul is saying.

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I mean really just, even for an unbeliever, in

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the land of just common sense, who can

37:53

argue with teach the young women to love their

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husbands?

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I mean teach them to love their children, to

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be workers at home, be subject, I mean it's

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just sensible.

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That's not, is that confusing?

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That's not confusing, that's what the Bible

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says.

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And if we are to be an example again to those

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outside the church, that's the Bible's way

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of raising a family is the best way, and guess

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what?

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We better have our own house in order or we're

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not going to be an example, right?

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This in itself is a form of evangelism.

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This is something that God can use to draw a

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lost people to himself.

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So that's the biblical standard for the women,

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men, you are next.

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And I would advise you to come to church, next

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time we're here in Ephesians 5, with

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your steel toe boots on, you will be convicted

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, and primarily because, as I've already laid

38:57

the groundwork for, your position is the

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position of authority, and that carries with

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it a much

39:05

higher responsibility.

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Let's pray.

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Father, we thank you, this clear instruction

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from your Word, Inspiring Apostle Paul.

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This is your design for how the mechanics of

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the family is to work, and it's so counter

39:26

cultural,

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and we've been so influenced by the world, and

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even influences our thinking, the world

39:32

does.

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But if we're going to say we believe the Bible

39:36

is the Word of God, then we have to conform

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to what it says and not worry about what the

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world thinks.

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Clearly, it's not working on that side.

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And so, Father, help us to be submissive

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ourselves, all of us, to the teaching of the

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Word of

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God as to how we are to order our families,

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and how we are to live obediently to you,

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that it might be an example to others, that

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the truth is the truth, that Christ alone is

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the one and only Savior of sinners, and that

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the Bible is your Word, all to your glory.

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In Jesus' name we pray, amen.